The Skyline ~ November 10, 2022
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“Hello, honey! It’s ‘Call Your Daughter
Day!’” my mother
said when I an-
swered my phone
last Wednesday.
Mom and I talk
often, but we’d
never established
a “call your daugh-
ter day.” However,
I knew instinctu-
ally why she’d said
this to me on this
particular day.
It was Wednes-
day, and for
many years, it
was “Call Your
Sister Day” to
Mom — the day she and her sister,
Charlene, talked on the phone.
Two weeks ago, my Aunt Char passed
away.
This Wednesday phone call indicated
that my role in Mom’s life was expand-
ing beyond daughter. I could never
replace my Aunt Char — a tall woman
with a big personality and bold sense
of humor, ice-blue eyes and high cheek
bones like my mom, an excellent cook,
a terric baker, a talented sewer and
crafter, a caretaker and giver.
I, on the other hand, am short with
brown eyes and a round face. I’m a
decent but lazy cook and a lousy baker.
I’m crafty and creative, but less so than
Aunt Char. Although my sense of humor
is well-developed from years of using it
as a crutch, ploy for attention, and ice-
breaker, I’ve always admired my Aunt’s
bold, unapologetic, comedic style.
Growing up, we didn’t see Aunt Char,
Uncle Allen, and my cousins, Shari and
Margaret, as much as we would have
liked because they lived in Kentucky, but
my Aunt’s unique personality made its
indelible mark on people’s lives nonethe-
less.
I’ll never forget Aunt Char making
home-made ice cream on her back porch
on hot, summer days. Sewing our Hal-
loween costumes from scratch. Yelling
at us for riding Pop’s gate like it was a
swing. Crocheting nose-warmers for us
to wear while sledding in Pennsylvania.
Playing piano with my mom. Blaring
with her Kentucky twang, “If you’re gon-
na stir up sh#t, don’t use me as a spoon!”
and other classic one-liners. Making
everyone in the Ohio river cabin laugh
late into the night. Tying ivory bows to
decorate the church for my wedding.
I’m honored that my mother called me
last Wednesday. Although we’re not sis-
ters, my Mom’s call means that we have
a sisterhood.
As a kid, I’d sometimes go home from
school with my best friend, Patti, who
had two sisters. I’d watch with fascina-
tion and horror, as Patti and her older
sister, Barb, erupted in vicious sibling
ghts, scratching, biting, beating each
other with hangers, and hurling bru-
tal insults. Conversely, Patti and Barb
protectively coddled their younger sister,
Dina, while ironically resenting their
parents’ insistence on treating her as
“the baby.”
At the time, I didn’t understand that
the complexity of loving sister relation-
ships often includes physical alterca-
tions and ruthless name-calling, and
thought I was lucky I didn’t have one
myself.
But as I grew, I found myself seek-
ing out connections with women to ll
that void in my life. There’s Patti, still
my BFF. Barb and Dina, who’ve become
like sisters to me, too. College room-
mates Heidi and Chris; coworkers Juli-
anne, Cindi and Krista; gym pals Tina
and Amy; beach buddy Grace; bunco
girls Suz, Lori, and Christine; writer
friends Suzette, Nancy and Carolyn;
sister-in-law Cara; neighbor Rebecca;
military spouse friends Karen, Navarre,
Jean, Erin, Suz, Natalie, Mufn, Tara,
Eileen; and so many more.
And although my blood has speci-
cally dictated my particular roles in my
daughters’ and mom’s lives, they’re part
of my sisterhood, too.
Sisterhood is not limited by genealo-
gy, but rather, it’s a special relationship
safe-place, where women can conde
and confess, boast and brag, ponticate
and ponder, advise and admonish, guide
and give, ask and receive, comfort and
compliment, fail and ounder, vent and
lament, laugh and cry — with uncon-
ditional support and without risk of
abandonment.
It matters less that you don’t call,
write or see each other for weeks,
months or even years on end. It matters
more that, when you do, you pick up
where you left off last time. The recipe
for sisterhood has three simple ingre-
dients: life-long loyalty, no competition,
and mutual respect.
Oh, and try not to beat each other
with hangers.
Lisa Smith Molinari’s self syndicated columns appear
on her blog, www.themeatandpotatoesoife.com and
she recently co-authored Stories Around the Table:
Laughter, Wisdom, and Strength in Military Life Fol-
low Lisa@MolinariWrites.
The beautiful need for sisterhood
Molinari
COLUMN
By Freida Frisaro and Danica Coto
AP News
Crews evacuated dozens of people from
vulnerable locations in the northwestern
Bahamas as Tropical Storm Nicole ap
-
proached Wednesday and residents of
Florida braced for the storm, which could
strengthen to a rare November hurricane.
“We are forecasting it to become a hur-
ricane as it nears the northwestern Ba-
hamas, and remain a hurricane as it ap-
proaches the east coast of Florida,” Daniel
Brown, a senior hurricane specialist at the
Miami-based National Hurricane Center,
said Wednesday.
Nicole is the rst storm to hit the Ba-
hamas since Hurricane Dorian, a devas-
tating Category 5 storm that struck the
archipelago in 2019, before hitting storm-
weary Florida on Wednesday night and
moving into Georgia on Thursday.
In the Bahamas, ofcials said early
Wednesday that only a few people were
in the more than two dozen shelters that
opened. Flooding and power outages were
reported in Abaco ahead of the storm’s ar
-
rival.
“We are asking people to please take it (se
-
riously),” said Andrea Newbold with the
Disaster Management Unit for Social Ser
-
vices. “Don’t wait until the last minute.”
Residents in at least three Florida
counties — Flagler, Palm Beach and Volu-
sia — were ordered to evacuate from bar-
rier islands, low-lying areas and mobile
homes. The evacuation orders went into
effect Wednesday morning. Ofcials at
Orlando International Airport, the sev-
enth busiest in the U.S., said commercial
operations would stop Wednesday after-
noon until it was safe to resume ights.
And Palm Beach International Airport
planned to close.
Bahamas Prime Minister Philip Brave
Davis, who is at the COP27 U.N. Climate
Summit, said he has mobilized all govern-
ment resources as the storm nears.
“There have always been storms, but
as the planet warms from carbon emis-
sions, storms are growing in intensity and
frequency,” he said. “For those in Grand
Bahama and Abaco, I know it is especially
difcult for you to face another storm,”
Davis said, referring to the hardest hit is-
lands by Dorian.
Tropical Storm Nicole bears down on the Bahamas, Florida
Photo from NOAA via AP
This GOES-East GoeColor satellite image taken at 2:36 p.m. EST and provided
by NOAA shows Tropical Storm Nicole approaching toward the northwestern
Bahamas and Florida’s Atlantic coastline on Tuesday, Nov. 8, 2022.
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